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How to be a Better Parent | Week 51 | Confidence Revolution

How to be a Better Parent | Week 51 | Confidence Revolution

Week 51!

Can you believe it? You have done such an amazing job walking this road. I am proud of you!


If you’ve never heard of Dr. Shefali Tsabary, allow me to introduce you.

If you are a parent, a child, if you want to know how to have more joy, how to be in flow more, how to relax into life more --- Dr. Shefali is for you!

I have been a longtime fan of Dr. Shefali (and so has Oprah! I have good taste. Lol  – Dr. Shefali is Oprah’s foremost expert on parenting.)

A few months ago, I got the chance to meet Dr. Shefali at a conference, and I worked up the nerve to ask her to read my book – and this is what she had to say.

I was REALLY EXCITED AND HONORED!


In my book (coming soon!) I reference Dr. Shefali's first book The Conscious Parent. A few things that Dr. Shefali highlights in this book is that as parents most of us:

1. Assume since we are older we KNOW BETTER (wrong) and
2. Don’t really see our children, rather we try to mold them
3. Project our unresolved issues onto our children and
4. That most of our unresolved issues were handed down to us by folks who also had unresolved issues. (oops)

Now these points are VERY basic. I just finished a 4 month long course with Dr. Shefali where she DELVES into these subjects – so know these are just bullet points and there are MANY MORE LAYERS.

Some basic examples of unconsciously trying to mold children are:

The mom who always loved pageants as a child and insists that her daughter also be involved in pageants. Does the daughter really like pageants or would she rather play soccer?

Or

The father who had dreams of making the NFL but never quite did – so he pushes his son into competitive football, even though the son doesn’t show any interest.

Or – a seemingly more noble cause

The parents who push and schedule their 3 year to learn a new language because they want her to be ready for the Ivy League once application time rolls around.

None of these examples are “bad” on their face. The children will most certainly learn good skills from pageantry, football and academics – but is it what they want or are the parents just working out unresolved issues of insecurity, lack, boredom, etc.?

The first time I was introduced to the notion of unconscious molding it was hard to hear.
 
I most certainly want my daughter to have a good, joy filled life – but maybe her version of good and joy filled life is being a yoga teacher and rescuing dogs – maybe it’s not attending Yale and being an international speaker (my dream.)

The Conscious Parent encouraged me to not only facilitate my daughter’s life (she’s only 2.5), but to SEE her, and to tune into Alexandra’s voice -- literally and figuratively. Seeing Alexandra as a person rather than just a mini-me allowed me to release expectations and simply enjoy her. <3 <3
 

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love and grace, catia

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