The Power of Words
Originally published on 10-16-13
The subconscious will believe what we feed it.
- I want to have a great life.
- I would like to have a great life.
- I am trying to have a great life.
- I can’t have a great life.
- It’s difficult to have a great life.
- If I ever have a great life…
- I just can’t seem to have a great life.
- With my luck I’ll never have a great life.
Here are a few more examples of how words lead us astray when we’re not being mindful of our language.
· “I would like to be a writer.” –Subconsciously non-committal.
· “I’m going to be a writer.” – This is a little more binding but doesn’t really hold me to anything.
· “My diet is so difficult! I just can’t find anything to eat.” – The person making this statement has already painted themselves into failure without even being aware. They will convince themselves that it is difficult! It will seep into their brain and all of a sudden they’re choosing the large chocolate milk shake over the fresh cut veggies.
· “I just can’t. I just can’t handle it!”
· “I just can’t quit smoking.” -- Can’t is the devil of all words. Of course someone can quit smoking! They can do whatever they want. The situation may be challenging, but anyone can handle a challenge. They may not want to quit smoking, but that’s a different story.
· “If I ever become successful I’m going to …”--Remove the word ‘if.’ Don’t leave a wide open space in the subconscious for failure.
· “I’m trying to be a better person.”
· “I am trying to get it shape.”—Listen to Yoda. Do or do not, there is not try. You’re either doing it or you’re not.
Folks who accomplish their goals don’t language themselves into ‘maybe’ they language themselves directly to success. They say,
“I am a writer.” “I am eating healthy.” “I am being a better person.” “I am getting in shape.”
Saying words that are positive and imply action tell our minds what to believe.
If I say, “I am having a great life.” My brain will respond with “Yes you are having a nice life.” I may not be having the best life the first time I utter those words, but each time you I think that thought or say the words a loud, I am molding my mind. All of sudden, I am in control of my mind instead of my mind being in control of me.
Here’s the thing about words, they matter. It matters what we read, what we hear, what we think and what we say. Words are everything. We should guard our words and our thoughts, they shape every experience. They can and do have a monumental impact on how we perceive our lives. Words are free but they are valuable.
People who accomplish their goals craft their way toward their goals, and they always begin with words.
Winston Churchill said, "We shape our buildings, and afterwards our buildings shape us.” I say, “We shape our words, and afterwards our words shape us.”