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Post Break Up

Post Break Up

Originally published on 1-2-11

Post break up is such an awkward time. 

How the conversation used to go (mind chatter included):

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: “Are you married?”

Me: Here we go again. “No, not yet.”

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: “Do you have a boyfriend?”

Me: “No, but I am dating, great guys even.  I’m just having the best time.  I stay busy with work, travel, girlfriends.  Life is just great!” I say with an overdose of smiles and charm.

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: “Are you ok?”

Me: “Yep, life couldn’t be better!” Well life could be a little better.  Also, I want to save face in case you think my life could be better.  

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: They walk away satisfied and comfortable.  They are after all, speaking to a 27 year old, aging out of the small town mentality marriage game.

Me: I walk away a little exhausted from performing my shtick yet again, and comfortable in that they don’t think I’m a loser and I actually have a life.

I’ve had variations of this conversation countless times, and each day that passes is a day that I gain a little more confidence in who I am, what I am doing, and who I want to be.

How the conversation goes now (mind chatter included):

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: “Are you married?”

Me: “Nope.” Wait for it…

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk: “Do you have a boyfriend?”

Me: “Nope.” Wait for it…Silent awkward pause, where I know they would like me to fill in the space with shtick, but I resist and almost find humor in the silence, so I keep still and quiet.

Relative/friend/ acquaintance/random bar patron making small talk:  They look at me inquisitively, not knowing where to take the conversation. They are stuck. Shit. “Are you ok?”

Me: “Yep.”  That’s it, no need to explain.

I found so much humor in this exchange, I had some shirts made, and gifted them to great girlfriends who partake in the same conversation from time to time.

To all the Nosy Rosies out there, yes, we are ok, even post break up. We’re fine.  We’re doing exactly what we want: chasing dreams, chasing careers, have girl’s night four nights a week instead of one, spending quality time with our families, contributing to our communities, dating Mr. Friday Night, Mr. Sexiest man I’ve ever laid eyes on, Mr. Crazy but fun.  We’re enjoying life! When and if we find the lucky guy to spend the rest of our years with, we will let you know.

Cheers to 2011 and really feeling good about who we are and where we are!


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