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What to do with Haters | Week 48 | Confidence Revolution

What to do with Haters | Week 48 | Confidence Revolution

Holy cow, only 5 weeks left of the Confidence Revolution!!!! So... I thought I could quit you – but I can’t!

I thought I had run out of advice – but since I love people and love to learn – I have more nuggets for you.

Baby girl #2 will make her debut in mid-January (about 6 weeks left!) and I am going to take some time off from writing and enjoy her – so I’ll disconnect for a little while.

As soon as she and I and our family of four have hit our stride, I will pick back up! So expect some nuggets of wisdom to start rolling in around March.

Until then, let’s make the most of our time together! I’d love to hear from you on a few things.
  • Is there anything else you’d like to learn? What can I research or send you an email on that would help you live a more joyful life?
  • Please send me an email or a comment and let me know your favorite topic we’ve covered, or let me know how the Confidence Revolution has helped you. :)  It would be an honor for me to hear from each of you!!!

Okay onto this week’s topic. What to do with HATERS.

It’s the holiday season and you’re likely around a lot of folks – friends, family and co-workers. And some of those folks are going to throw some shade, or try to undermine you or flat out criticize you. Some will lovingly point out things you could be doing better and some will nit-pick just to annoy you.

Here are some things to remind yourself when you feel criticism being hurled at you. 

Know that there are two types of criticism – destructive and constructive.


  • It’s likely they don’t really KNOW you - so don't take their words personally. 
  • It’s 99.9% likely that their opinions have NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with their own unresolved issues, dilemmas and short comings.
  • Folks who criticize (and we all do it from time to time) are seeing the world through their own view point. They’re not really putting themselves in your shoes.
  • Also – THE BIG KAHUNA - You can’t change their opinion – because it’s not about you – it’s about them.


  • It’s coming from someone who shows they love you. (Not just says they love you.)
  • If their comment hits a nerve, sit with it – maybe there’s some truth to the statement.
  • Try not to shut it out completely – try to see if from their point of view.
  • Would you benefit from a little change?
  • Know you can handle it. All growth comes with some level of discomfort.
  • Sometimes our loved ones know we deserve better and just want us to believe it.

You are strong and you can ABSOLUTELY handle what is coming your way.


love and grace, catia

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