Becoming JOYFUL from the Inside Out | Self-Care

From Hustle to AlignmentLife Transitions

Jul 18

You probably hear about self-care a lot. We need self-care. Self-care is important. Some of you may really enjoy it and some of you may cringe when you hear, "self-care."

Self-care can be A LOT of things. It can mean time alone or time with friends. It can mean a manicure and a pedicure, or it could mean a piece of chocolate or it could mean a veggie smoothie.

Real, quality self-care only has a few tenants.

1) It must honor who we are.
2) Go back to #01.

When we claim self-care it has to honor our minds, bodies and our souls.

That's a PRETTY high bar.

Here are a few things to get comfortable with that come along with self-care.

1) You are going to have to put yourself first, which means, it's going to come at a cost.

This cost could be monetary, or it could be time away from your husband, or it could mean breaking up with girlfriend, or it could mean starting that sewing project you've been thinking about. You have a finite amount of time, and time for you means less time for someone/something else.

Does this scare you? Does this make you feel weird?

I totally get it. Even I feel this way sometimes. I get sucked into being the wife/mom/friend that's always there, at the ready! But you know what, if I do that for too long, I start to get ticked off and resentful. And that is NO GOOD for anyone.

We have to get comfortable putting ourselves first.

Somewhere we learned that this is selfish behavior, or that we are bad people if we do this. But those are handed down beliefs. And we get to create our own belief system, right?

2.) Say, "yes," and act, when you want to say, "yes." Say, "no," and don't act, when you want to say, "no."

This seems PRETTY simple. But oh my gosh, it isn't. We let our decision making get influenced by MANY things. These things can include, peer pressure, familial pressure, a sense of duty, obligation, keeping up with the Jones', expectations from friends, finances, and even a lack of time and energy.

When we are faced with decisions, we rarely go with our instinct or our true want. We usually wait and filter our decision through 20 layers, weighing the pros and cons of each one, until, BAM - we are confused.

It's no wonder we have a hard time identifying what we really want.

Self-care is about honoring ourselves. And we honor our selves by following that still, small voice inside of us. Our intuition is guiding us, encouraging us to take certain paths and avoid others.

I have told you many times, you are powerful. You already know what you need. You are wise. You are lovely and lovable, just as you are.

Let those other voices fall by the wayside, you already know the way.

Let me know if you have any questions surrounding this topic, or schedule a private guidance session. I'd love to help you get where you want to be.